tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post4819855582387478551..comments2023-10-31T11:44:09.357-04:00Comments on Life through Bifocals: What NOT to say to someone with CancerLynnMariehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00638947118932466226noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-82332950784624489532014-03-19T14:01:30.396-04:002014-03-19T14:01:30.396-04:00I can't imagine myself saying those things but...I can't imagine myself saying those things but I do know there are people out there that have no clue on compassion! Thank you for the list. <br /><br />I am so sorry you lost your friend......((HUGS)) Debby@Just Breathehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11685398064340027809noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-68839740387161797562014-03-19T00:08:48.531-04:002014-03-19T00:08:48.531-04:00I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. A dear...I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. A dear friend of mine is fighting cancer right now and I don't think she's going to win and she's very realistic about it all. Another friend and me were talking about what to say to her when she starts talking about things like "when God takes me" and other comments in a similar vein. I know I probably err on the side of saying wrong things (but not quite as tacky as some of the things you listed here) but sometimes we don't know what to say and want to say something, if that makes sense. Maybe a post could be written on what can be said, what you appreciate hearing? <br /><br />bettybettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323135450742337670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-27835648796108052692014-03-18T13:22:34.171-04:002014-03-18T13:22:34.171-04:00Cathy, you strike me as the person who thinks befo...Cathy, you strike me as the person who thinks before you speak and that will keep you from saying such things. Thanks for the prayers.LynnMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00638947118932466226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-61433494018740251812014-03-18T13:20:38.621-04:002014-03-18T13:20:38.621-04:00Thanks for Hug - love those - even the ones over t...Thanks for Hug - love those - even the ones over the internet! :-)LynnMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00638947118932466226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-1105932777965676982014-03-18T13:19:18.790-04:002014-03-18T13:19:18.790-04:00April, I think all of us that have had cancer and...April, I think all of us that have had cancer and the caregivers can relate to stupid statements we hear. I'm glad to know that we can all laugh at it and sad to know that we all have heard them. I'm so sorry about your mom.LynnMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00638947118932466226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-75825865091514956172014-03-18T13:17:07.811-04:002014-03-18T13:17:07.811-04:00Thank you Anu, he was a good man and we shared a l...Thank you Anu, he was a good man and we shared a lot. I have a longer list of stupid things that were said to me but only put down 7. I'll add more another day. I figured 7 was enough for one day. I've been shocked by a few as well and really didn't know what to say at first but after awile, when you hear the stupid remark over and over I do come up with something. Silence Is Golden sometimes.LynnMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00638947118932466226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-37436566225626736512014-03-18T13:12:55.433-04:002014-03-18T13:12:55.433-04:00Terri, Thank you for your kind words. The is is a ...Terri, Thank you for your kind words. The is is a lot longer but only put down 7. I'll do more on another day. LynnMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00638947118932466226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-1377274572297237162014-03-18T13:01:31.889-04:002014-03-18T13:01:31.889-04:00I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.
Tha...I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend.<br /><br />Thank you for listing these ridiculous things people say - and shouldn't say. I think that people really just don't know what to say, so stupid things come out of their mouths. Kind of like the silly things we say at funerals. It's uncomfortable, and silence seems even more uncomfortable, so silly things get said. It's good that you and your friend could laugh at them. Thanks again for sharing the list - I'm sure it could be longer!!Terri Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15333024343069943295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-11292605996661816002014-03-18T12:47:38.693-04:002014-03-18T12:47:38.693-04:00So sorry to hear about your friend. Thank you for...So sorry to hear about your friend. Thank you for sharing this list. I don't think I've ever said these things. But what this does, is remind me to be careful what I say to people. Thanks for the reminder. Still praying for you.Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04662751045378148853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-6604967612950151222014-03-18T12:46:00.816-04:002014-03-18T12:46:00.816-04:00My deepest sympathy on your loss. I'm sure you...My deepest sympathy on your loss. I'm sure you were a great comfort and source of laughs to your friend.<br /><br />I'm also sorry for all the thoughtless things people have said to you. Number 7 was shocking to me - way beyond thoughtless - stupid and cruel to wish ill on someone else.<br /><br />I LOVED your retort to #4 - that's perfect and so funny. How you managed not to slap these morons upside the head is a testament to your classiness.Anuhttp://www.morebarkforyourbuck.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-9566827646927351952014-03-18T12:19:31.033-04:002014-03-18T12:19:31.033-04:00So sorry for the loss of your friend. The list you...So sorry for the loss of your friend. The list you shared helps all of us to better understand what to say to someone with cancer. My mom had breast cancer, so I can relate to it well.Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13114076859455081016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6276648828628465771.post-37964577951048860202014-03-18T06:42:58.850-04:002014-03-18T06:42:58.850-04:00Unbelievable the things people say. {{hug}}Unbelievable the things people say. {{hug}}Kathy ... aka Nanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17626590048036292030noreply@blogger.com